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May 2011 Monthly Ed Tip!


Try Better Family Routines to Fight Childhood Obesity


How to fight the childhood obesity problem? No doubt your first thought was more exercise and better diet. True, but two studies that three family routines could reduce a child’s risk for obesity by 40%. W. Douglas Tynan, associate professor of pediatrics at Jefferson Medical college, reports on two research studies done years and an ocean apart that setting limits on TV, having family meals together, and getting the child to bed on time could reduce could lower the risk of obesity in a children. Philadelphia Inquirer, April 18, 2012



Tips on How to Converse with Your Child or Student


A communication gap between parents and child has long existed. Whether because of choice of words, tone of voice, sophistication of issue, obstructing emotion or personal prerogative, messages between generations often are garbled. In an effort to help you and your child understand each other, offers the following advice. Philadelphia Inquirer, April 19, 2012


~ Repeat what you heard. After your child’s utterances, restate what you heard and verbalize your child’s feelings.


~ Ask specific – not general – questions to gather more information.


~ Share your thinking aloud, to reveal how you arrived at your decision. Children delight in being included in a parent’s thought processes.


~ Deliver thought imagination that which you can’t actually deliver. If your child yearns for something that s/he can’t have, encourage him/her to dream and then talk about what s/he wants.


~ Ask your child what s/he wants to happen or would like to change. If the comments are specific, asks him/her for suggestions about how to bring about that wish.


~ Recounting a funny experience that happened to you and is related to your child’s issue could help ignite discourse. Most children enjoy hearing brief stories about a parent’s childhood, especially when you can admit to gaffes and mistakes.


~ Empathy helps. See the situation through your child’s eyes and hear her/him out completely, even if the answer will remain a “no.”


~ Remember that you are bigger than your child – so get on his/her level.


~ Avoid attacking your child’s character, especially after his/her melt down. You must separate the behavior form the child, or else you run the risk of shaming the child because of your feeling or worse, implying that s/he is intrinsically bad.


~ Humor and levity can help converse with your child and resolve some conflicts, but avid directing it at your child in a demeaning manner.


~ Pause and consider. Give yourself a moment to think about what your child’s is asking or stating.


~ Let your child vent, even if the tantrum pushes your limits. Your enduring the rant – simply being there without saying much – may soothe and comfort your child. Sometimes you just need to wait it out until the feelings is expressed and exhausted


Welcome back to another school year. I hope your summer was relaxing and invigorating and you are looking forward to the approaching school year and the opportunity to stimulate and challenge your students’ minds.

This summer I was able to study Sir Ken Robinson, a British author, speaker and international advisor on education to governments, non-profits, and education organizations

I, like many people, find his writings and Ted Talks not only witty and inspiring but also thought-provoking and challenging. Much of his work deals with the diversity of intelligence, the power of imagination and creativity, and the importance of commitment to our own capabilities. He posits that the noticeable lack of them in our schools negatively affect students’ learning and teachers’ productivity and the absence of them is triggered by the demands of standardized testing.

I hope you find Sir Ken Robinson’s words inspiriting and challenging as I do and be mindful of them as you plan for the new year. Here is to a great 2017-2018 school year!